1
TRANSFER photocopies
Use a fresh photocopy
Place face down
Rub the back with Chartpak blender marker
Acetone also works - nail polish remover
Google photocopy transfers for several more techniques
2
Embossing ink
One part glycerine
2 parts distilled water
Add water color so you can see it
Write with fluid
Sprinkle with embossing powder
Heat it with heat gun or hair dryer
3
90# Arches will go through a printer
4
cut four corners from an envelope to hold paper in position behind a mat
allows for expansion and contraction - and no tape
5
Esoterica: Whistler’s palette (not his mother’s).
In some work he was supposed to have used only these earth colors:
White, Yellow ochre, Venetian or Indian red (Venetian for oranges and Indian for violets)
Ivory black, Raw umber, Raw sienna.
Also Permanent blue. T
his limited palette, while difficult, can be expected to bring quality control and surprising range.
It’s good training too.
Less is more.
5
stencil pro hi res sheets for silk screen
6
Print Workshop by Christine Schmidt - many types of printing on all kinds of things
7
Lisbeth Zwerger
Thursday, March 8, 2018
Tuesday, February 27, 2018
that thing i was going to remember
Jahan Hari Hamilton- that curly penmanship sample
1
etegami
2
https://www.autodraw.com/
3
sugru - moldable glue
4
sonostarhub.com
5
GUIDELINES - http://shipbrook.net/guidelines/
6
happy birthday
get well quick
joyous xmas
spring fever daze
all 26 letters in 4 greetings
6.5
ELIZABETH-JACKIE-FROGMAN-DAVY WAX-PASQUALE
5 names with all 26 letters
7
cute downloads - https://caravanshoppe.com/
for kids
more http://www.2020site.org/
http://www.2020site.org/heraldry/Trees-Leaves-Flowers.html
http://www.2020site.org/heraldry/Trees-Leaves-Flowers.html
http://www.blueberrycreative.com/ wedding photogs
8
asiaticakc.com - peach pit jewelry
9
terry pratchett's going postal
10
generate guidelines
skipbrook.net/guidelines/
11
royalty free music for videos
https://incompetech.com/music/
etegami
2
https://www.autodraw.com/
3
sugru - moldable glue
4
sonostarhub.com
5
GUIDELINES - http://shipbrook.net/guidelines/
6
happy birthday
get well quick
joyous xmas
spring fever daze
all 26 letters in 4 greetings
6.5
ELIZABETH-JACKIE-FROGMAN-DAVY WAX-PASQUALE
5 names with all 26 letters
7
cute downloads - https://caravanshoppe.com/
for kids
more http://www.2020site.org/
http://www.2020site.org/heraldry/Trees-Leaves-Flowers.html
http://www.2020site.org/heraldry/Trees-Leaves-Flowers.html
http://www.blueberrycreative.com/ wedding photogs
8
asiaticakc.com - peach pit jewelry
9
terry pratchett's going postal
10
generate guidelines
skipbrook.net/guidelines/
11
royalty free music for videos
https://incompetech.com/music/
12
The 5 types of friends
Intellectual stimulator
Emotional supporter
Mentor
Playmate
Confidant
Don't expect one person to fill all these rolls. If you lose that person, you'll be in tough spot. Try to have these 5 people be a mi of friends and relatives.
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Monday, February 19, 2018
Judging by Appearances - Lovely roooms
Only superficial people do not judge according to appearances
Solo le persone superficiali non giudicano dalle apparenze.
I would replicate this on one of my walls if I lived alone. I don't think Mr. Wilson shares the love of big wonky lettering on the walls.
I do think that white on chocolate is lovely and hope to someday have another chocolate colored room.
Solo le persone superficiali non giudicano dalle apparenze.
I would replicate this on one of my walls if I lived alone. I don't think Mr. Wilson shares the love of big wonky lettering on the walls.
I do think that white on chocolate is lovely and hope to someday have another chocolate colored room.
Labels:
interiors,
wall writing
Saturday, September 23, 2017
Friday, April 7, 2017
QUOTES
there is no exception to the rule that every rule has an exception
-James thurber
Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
-James thurber
Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final.
—
Rainer Maria Rilke
QUOTES FROM CALLIGRAPHERS
Alf Ebsen
- I have no trouble writing legible, if someone is paying for it
Alfred Fairbanks
-Writing is performed by movements, it is a dance of the pen
Donald Jackson
- Cultivate your madness
-The difference between calligraphy and handwriting is that calligraphy is
the shapes that are the art form not he words being written
- Letters and words are merely the starting point for exploitation in space
Friedrich Poppl
- Only in the contrast of black to white does form remain incorruptible
Gemma Black
- ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRS TUVWXYZ
Twenty six letters each with individual character and purpose
Gottfried Potts
- Learning to write is the end result of many corrected mistakes
- Life is too short to use cheap paper
Hermann Zapf
- All the letters are waiting for you in the bottle of ink. All you have to
do is pull them out
John Stevens
- Calligraphy is another human endeavour where something wonderful exists.
It is an expression of individuality
Kargeorg Hoefer
- Calligraphy is an expression of joy and surprise.
- I have no trouble writing legible, if someone is paying for it
Alfred Fairbanks
-Writing is performed by movements, it is a dance of the pen
Donald Jackson
- Cultivate your madness
-The difference between calligraphy and handwriting is that calligraphy is
the shapes that are the art form not he words being written
- Letters and words are merely the starting point for exploitation in space
Friedrich Poppl
- Only in the contrast of black to white does form remain incorruptible
Gemma Black
- ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRS TUVWXYZ
Twenty six letters each with individual character and purpose
Gottfried Potts
- Learning to write is the end result of many corrected mistakes
- Life is too short to use cheap paper
Hermann Zapf
- All the letters are waiting for you in the bottle of ink. All you have to
do is pull them out
John Stevens
- Calligraphy is another human endeavour where something wonderful exists.
It is an expression of individuality
Kargeorg Hoefer
- Calligraphy is an expression of joy and surprise.
Calligraphy builds a bridge from one human being to another,
from country to country
Larry Brady
- The making of letters in any way, whether calligraphic, hand lettered,
using a computer or whatever, is the same to me,
as long as I can make them beautiful
Michael Clark
- Be the Pen!
Michael Hughey
- It is pleasurable to see words written beautifully as it is to hear them
spoken beautifully
Paul Standard
- Geometry can produce legible letters, but art alone makes them
beautiful. Art begins where geometry end,
and imparts to letters a character transcending mere measurement
Peter Thornton
- Computers - they're not wet enough
- Don't guess what you're doing and hope it will happen. KNOW where you're
going
- The perfect letter is at the bottom of the bottle
Rudolf Koch
- Lettering is the purest and greatest pleasure and on countless
occasions in my life it has been to me
what a song os to a singer, painting to a painter, cheer to the joyous,
and a sigh to the afflicted.
To me, it has been the happiest and most perfect expression of my life
- Letters are decoration enough in themselves, and when done with a
correct understanding,
they are the most beautiful and the most decorative kind of ornament
from country to country
Larry Brady
- The making of letters in any way, whether calligraphic, hand lettered,
using a computer or whatever, is the same to me,
as long as I can make them beautiful
Michael Clark
- Be the Pen!
Michael Hughey
- It is pleasurable to see words written beautifully as it is to hear them
spoken beautifully
Paul Standard
- Geometry can produce legible letters, but art alone makes them
beautiful. Art begins where geometry end,
and imparts to letters a character transcending mere measurement
Peter Thornton
- Computers - they're not wet enough
- Don't guess what you're doing and hope it will happen. KNOW where you're
going
- The perfect letter is at the bottom of the bottle
Rudolf Koch
- Lettering is the purest and greatest pleasure and on countless
occasions in my life it has been to me
what a song os to a singer, painting to a painter, cheer to the joyous,
and a sigh to the afflicted.
To me, it has been the happiest and most perfect expression of my life
- Letters are decoration enough in themselves, and when done with a
correct understanding,
they are the most beautiful and the most decorative kind of ornament
Labels:
quotes
Wednesday, September 21, 2016
Friday, February 12, 2016
Sunday, December 6, 2015
ethan hauser loves the post office
http://tinyurl.com/qh75jd7
NOT because it still delivers
letters — the Alamo of warm and fuzzy Luddites like my mother and multinational
credit card corporations.
And not because of stamps.
Collectors, may you never give up on the dream of finding that inverted
Jenny-plane 24-center at a flea market in Ohio.
And not because it is celebrating
National Dog Bite Prevention Week by ranking cities by the number of attacks on
postal employees in 2014 (No. 1: Los Angeles, with 74).
Nor is it the workaday architecture
of post offices themselves, whether Brutalist concrete or prefab ranch style.
Nor even the small-town half post
office, half general stores, with idiosyncratic hours, and bricks of hunter’s
Cheddar.
No, this is a paean to the big-city
post office, those grimy, chaotic, good-will-draining temples of American
bureaucratic dysfunction, where hopes and packages are mangled, and lunch hours
are not to be trifled with, and where you can still experience a city in all
its magnificent, unfriendly, unruly mess.
Like the D.M.V. and jury duty, the
post office is one of the last great equalizing institutions. There are no
V.I.P. windows, no first-class lounges, no velvet ropes — save for the vinyl
Tensabarrier aides that children claim as dance partners. All of us — including
the actress from “Girls” I spotted one Christmastime, her boulder-scale Chanel
shopping bag swinging close to the eye of a toddler — have to face the same
beleaguered civil servants, who recite the same scripts about liquids and
perishables. It doesn’t matter if you star in a hit television show about
Brooklyn — you are still not entitled to mail a lithium battery or genetically
modified crops.
As with many of our objects of
affection, the post office has shifting moods. Stress and crowds spike around
what are thought to be the most anxiety-inducing parts of life: changes of
address (moving), tax day (finances), Christmas (major holidays) and Mother’s
Day (mothers).
Quieter stretches valley the peaks,
but you are always just a passport-renewal seeker or a clerk’s coffee break
away from the line threatening to move so slowly that it is actually inching
backward. Then one fellow patron might roll his eyes, another might huff, still
another might appeal to Jesus. Here, beneath the fluorescent bulbs speckled
with what may or may not have once been tiny, vaguely prehistoric winged
creatures, our differences dissolve.
Yet there are pleasures to be had,
beyond the masochistic ones. At the same Brooklyn post office where I saw the
boy nearly blinded by the bag, there is, amid the self-inking stamps used to
label mail, one that reads “PRETENTIOUSLY HAZARDOUS.” So flawless was this, so
in perfect pitch with the light-speed-changing neighborhood in which it sits,
that I thought maybe I had dreamed it up. So I returned and there it was again,
the accidental poetry of an author within the United States Postal Service,
some 625,000 men and women strong and $5 billion on the bleeding side of its
yearly operating budget.
No one can sanely argue that this is
money well spent. It could probably buy everyone on earth a candy bar. But
maybe that is not the point. Maybe the point is to pick up some stamps today,
or send back the empty toner cartridge from your printer — because you’re a
good person and you want to save the planet — and lucky you, you are about to
see the stubborn, glorious disarray that still tatters our gleaming cities.
Ethan Hauser is the author of the
novel “The Measures Between Us.”
Monday, September 7, 2015
double envelopes for weddings
here is a blurb about the use of double envelopes from an old book by Gaskell that you may view here
https://archive.org/stream/penmanshandbookf00gask#page/178/mode/2up
https://archive.org/stream/penmanshandbookf00gask#page/178/mode/2up
Friday, May 22, 2015
Thursday, May 15, 2014
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Friday, November 22, 2013
post office and letter writing blogs
here is a person who has visited over 5,000 post offices in 49 states
http://colossus-of-roads.blogspot.com/
this one appears to be for postal workers
http://yourpostalblog.wordpress.com/
and the Letter Writers Alliance has been around for a while
many links at their blog
http://16sparrows.typepad.com/letterwritersalliance/
the missive maven, another letter writing fan who has been around for a while
http://www.missivemaven.com/2012/01/2011-year-in-mail.html
http://colossus-of-roads.blogspot.com/
this one appears to be for postal workers
http://yourpostalblog.wordpress.com/
and the Letter Writers Alliance has been around for a while
many links at their blog
http://16sparrows.typepad.com/letterwritersalliance/
the missive maven, another letter writing fan who has been around for a while
http://www.missivemaven.com/2012/01/2011-year-in-mail.html
Thursday, November 14, 2013
Sunday, November 3, 2013
Saturday, September 7, 2013
different styles of learning
By Martha Beck
If at first you don't succeed... ask yourself, Am I an otter? A squirrel? A mouse? The answer could spell the difference between things going swimmingly and squeaking to a halt. Find your own winning style.
It was a problem I'd never anticipated: My brainy daughter was having trouble in school. Katie began teaching herself to read at 15 months and tested at a "post–high school" level in almost every subject by fourth grade. Yet her middle-school grades were dropping like a lead balloon, and her morale along with them. I cared more about the morale than the grades. I knew Katie was quickly losing something educational psychologists call her sense of self-efficacy -- her belief that she could succeed at specific tasks and life in general. People who lack this trait tend to stop trying because they expect to fail. Then, of course, they do fail, feel even worse, shut down even more, and carry on to catastrophe.
I couldn't understand what put Katie on this slippery slope. True, some people seem genetically inclined to believe in themselves -- or not -- but experience powerfully influences our sense of self-efficacy. I knew Katie had been confident as a preschooler, but her current trouble at school was destroying her optimism. I tried to help in every way I could. I created homework-checking systems, communicated with teachers like bosom buddies, doled out penalties and rewards. Mostly, though, I just kept cheering Katie on. I was sure that if she would stop hesitating, believe in herself, and just throw herself into the task at hand, she'd get past the problem.
Boy, was I ever wrong.
It took years of confidence-battering struggle -- for both Katie and me -- before I finally got the information I needed. It came from a no-nonsense bundle of kindly energy named Kathy Kolbe, a specialist on the instinctive patterns that shape human action. Kathy's father pioneered many standardized intelligence tests, but Kathy was born with severe dyslexia, which meant that this obviously bright little girl didn't learn in a typical way. She grew up determined to understand and defend the different ways in which people go about solving problems.
The day Katie and I met her, Kathy was wearing a T-shirt that said "do nothing when nothing works," a motto that typifies her approach. On her desk were the results from the tests (the Kolbe A and Y Indexes) that my daughter and I had just taken to evaluate our personal "conative styles," or typical action patterns.
"Well," said Kathy, glancing at a bar graph, "I see you both listen better when you're drawing."
Katie and I stared at each other, astonished. Bull's-eye.
"And you've both had a zillion teachers tell you to stop drawing. They said you could do only one thing at a time, but that's not true for you two, is it? You have a hard time focusing if there's nothing to occupy your eyes and hands."
Unexpectedly, I found myself tearing up with gratitude. I'd never realized how frustrated I'd been by the very situation Kathy was describing. Katie sat up a little straighter in her chair.
"But," Kathy went on, "Martha, you go about problem-solving in a different way from Katie. There are four basic action modes, and you're what I call a Quick Start. When you want to learn, you just jump in and start messing around."
Another bull's-eye. I cannot count the times I've been defeated, humiliated, or physically injured immediately after saying the words, "Hey, how hard can it be?" But that never seems to stop me from saying them again.
"Now," Kathy went on, "Katie's not a Quick Start. She's a Fact Finder. Before she starts a task, she needs to know all about it. She needs to go through the instructions and analyze them for flaws, then get more information to fill in the gaps."
To my amazement, my daughter nodded vigorously. I've never understood why some people hesitate before diving into unfamiliar tasks or activities. I couldn't imagine wanting more instructions about anything.
"There are two other typical patterns," Kathy explained. "The people I call Implementors -- like Thomas Edison, for example -- need physical objects to work with. They figure out things by building models or doing concrete tasks. Then there are the Follow Thrus. They set up orderly systems, like the Dewey decimal system or a school curriculum.
"And that, Katie," she said, "is why you're having trouble. The school system was created mainly by people who are natural Follow Thrus. It works best for students with the same profile. Your teachers want you to fit into the system, but you have a hard time seeing how it works. If you question the instructions -- which you absolutely need to do -- they think you're being sassy."
Katie nodded so hard I feared for her cervical vertebrae. I was stunned. I'd spent years trying to understand my daughter, and a veritable stranger had just nailed the problem in ways I'd never even conceptualized. Katie wanted more instructions? You could have knocked me down with a feather.
Basic Instinct
I've told this story in detail because since meeting Kathy, studying her work, and seeing how dramatically it affects people and their productivity, I've become convinced that many of us feel like failures because we don't recognize (let alone accept) that our instinctive methods of acting are as varied as our eye color. Our modus operandi shapes the way we do everything: make breakfast, drive, learn math. Not recognizing natural differences in our conative styles -- assuming instead that we're idiots because we do things unconventionally -- can destroy that precious sense of self-efficacy.
Imagine a race between four animals: an otter, a mole, a squirrel, and a mouse. They're headed for a goal several feet away. Which animal will win? Well, it depends. If the goal is underground, my money's on the mole. If it's in a tree? Hello, Mr. Squirrel. Underwater, it's the otter. And if the goal is hidden in tall grass, the mouse will walk away with it. Now, all these animals can swim, dig, climb, and find things in the grass. It's just that each of them does one of these things better than the others. Putting all four animals in a swimming race, say, would lead to the conclusion that one was better than the others, when the truth is simply that their innate skills are different.
If we're in an environment (such as school, a job, or a family tradition) that asks us to act against our natural style, we feel uncomfortable at best, tormented at worst. Even if we manage to conform, we don't get a high sense of self-efficacy because although we've managed the efficacy part of the equation, we've lost the self. When we fail, we feel like losers; when we succeed, we feel like impostors.
Thanks to Kathy's work (and centuries of psychological work on conation), I've stopped asking others to match my instinctive style. I no longer expect squirrels to swim and otters to climb trees. As a result, I'm better able to support myself, my children, and everyone else I know. Here's a quick primer on how you can do the same:
Accept that you have an inborn, instinctive style of action
Just learning that there are four distinct patterns of action was a huge aha for me. When Katie and I accepted that we simply had different ways of doing things, our relationship and her confidence began to improve immediately. To identify your own action-mode profile, you can take a formal online test (the Kolbe Index at kolbe.com; there is a charge), or just observe your own approach to getting something done. To give you an example, people with different profiles might respond to a challenge -- let's say, learning to crochet -- in the following ways:
So I finally stopped pressuring Katie to act like her Follow Thru teachers or her Quick Start mother. Instead I helped her find detailed information and gave her time to absorb it. She recently devoured a 1,000-page book on Web site design that I would not read if the alternative were death on the rack. It took her a month to finish the book. The next day, she made a Web site. Spooky.
Play to your strengths
Once you know your instinctive style, brainstorm ways to make it work for you, not against you. For starters, choose fields of endeavor where you feel comfortable and competent. If you love systematic structure, don't become a freelancer. If you are crazy about physical models, don't force yourself to crunch financial statistics for a living.
To really boost your sense of self-efficacy, think of ways you could modify your usual tasks to suit your personal style. For example, Kathy suggested that Katie might ask for permission to do detailed research reports in place of other school assignments. I nearly threw up at the very thought, but to my astonishment Katie agreed enthusiastically.
Of course, you'll inevitably interact with people whose instinctive patterns are different from yours. Otter, Mole, Squirrel, and Mouse may all show up in the same family, workplace, or book club. Occasionally, it's fine to conform, using styles of action that don't come naturally -- but do it consciously and for a limited time, or your sense of self-efficacy will suffer. And finally...
Team up with unlike others
As long as Otter, Mole, Squirrel, and Mouse are forced to race in the same terrain, at least three of them will be out of their element, looking and feeling like failures. But think what they could do if they pooled their skills. They could access resources from the water, earth, trees, and fields, combining them in ways none of the animals could achieve alone. They could rule the world! (Or at least the backyard.)
This is the very best way to leverage an understanding of conative style -- to create useful, complementary strategies instead of disheartening, competitive ones. Many of us have spent a lifetime trying to be what we're not, feeling lousy about ourselves when we fail and sometimes even when we succeed. We hide our differences when, by accepting and celebrating them, we could collaborate to make every effort more exciting, productive, enjoyable, and powerful. Personally, I think we should start right now. I mean, hey, how hard can it be?
If at first you don't succeed... ask yourself, Am I an otter? A squirrel? A mouse? The answer could spell the difference between things going swimmingly and squeaking to a halt. Find your own winning style.
It was a problem I'd never anticipated: My brainy daughter was having trouble in school. Katie began teaching herself to read at 15 months and tested at a "post–high school" level in almost every subject by fourth grade. Yet her middle-school grades were dropping like a lead balloon, and her morale along with them. I cared more about the morale than the grades. I knew Katie was quickly losing something educational psychologists call her sense of self-efficacy -- her belief that she could succeed at specific tasks and life in general. People who lack this trait tend to stop trying because they expect to fail. Then, of course, they do fail, feel even worse, shut down even more, and carry on to catastrophe.
I couldn't understand what put Katie on this slippery slope. True, some people seem genetically inclined to believe in themselves -- or not -- but experience powerfully influences our sense of self-efficacy. I knew Katie had been confident as a preschooler, but her current trouble at school was destroying her optimism. I tried to help in every way I could. I created homework-checking systems, communicated with teachers like bosom buddies, doled out penalties and rewards. Mostly, though, I just kept cheering Katie on. I was sure that if she would stop hesitating, believe in herself, and just throw herself into the task at hand, she'd get past the problem.
Boy, was I ever wrong.
It took years of confidence-battering struggle -- for both Katie and me -- before I finally got the information I needed. It came from a no-nonsense bundle of kindly energy named Kathy Kolbe, a specialist on the instinctive patterns that shape human action. Kathy's father pioneered many standardized intelligence tests, but Kathy was born with severe dyslexia, which meant that this obviously bright little girl didn't learn in a typical way. She grew up determined to understand and defend the different ways in which people go about solving problems.
The day Katie and I met her, Kathy was wearing a T-shirt that said "do nothing when nothing works," a motto that typifies her approach. On her desk were the results from the tests (the Kolbe A and Y Indexes) that my daughter and I had just taken to evaluate our personal "conative styles," or typical action patterns.
"Well," said Kathy, glancing at a bar graph, "I see you both listen better when you're drawing."
Katie and I stared at each other, astonished. Bull's-eye.
"And you've both had a zillion teachers tell you to stop drawing. They said you could do only one thing at a time, but that's not true for you two, is it? You have a hard time focusing if there's nothing to occupy your eyes and hands."
Unexpectedly, I found myself tearing up with gratitude. I'd never realized how frustrated I'd been by the very situation Kathy was describing. Katie sat up a little straighter in her chair.
"But," Kathy went on, "Martha, you go about problem-solving in a different way from Katie. There are four basic action modes, and you're what I call a Quick Start. When you want to learn, you just jump in and start messing around."
Another bull's-eye. I cannot count the times I've been defeated, humiliated, or physically injured immediately after saying the words, "Hey, how hard can it be?" But that never seems to stop me from saying them again.
"Now," Kathy went on, "Katie's not a Quick Start. She's a Fact Finder. Before she starts a task, she needs to know all about it. She needs to go through the instructions and analyze them for flaws, then get more information to fill in the gaps."
To my amazement, my daughter nodded vigorously. I've never understood why some people hesitate before diving into unfamiliar tasks or activities. I couldn't imagine wanting more instructions about anything.
"There are two other typical patterns," Kathy explained. "The people I call Implementors -- like Thomas Edison, for example -- need physical objects to work with. They figure out things by building models or doing concrete tasks. Then there are the Follow Thrus. They set up orderly systems, like the Dewey decimal system or a school curriculum.
"And that, Katie," she said, "is why you're having trouble. The school system was created mainly by people who are natural Follow Thrus. It works best for students with the same profile. Your teachers want you to fit into the system, but you have a hard time seeing how it works. If you question the instructions -- which you absolutely need to do -- they think you're being sassy."
Katie nodded so hard I feared for her cervical vertebrae. I was stunned. I'd spent years trying to understand my daughter, and a veritable stranger had just nailed the problem in ways I'd never even conceptualized. Katie wanted more instructions? You could have knocked me down with a feather.
Basic Instinct
I've told this story in detail because since meeting Kathy, studying her work, and seeing how dramatically it affects people and their productivity, I've become convinced that many of us feel like failures because we don't recognize (let alone accept) that our instinctive methods of acting are as varied as our eye color. Our modus operandi shapes the way we do everything: make breakfast, drive, learn math. Not recognizing natural differences in our conative styles -- assuming instead that we're idiots because we do things unconventionally -- can destroy that precious sense of self-efficacy.
Imagine a race between four animals: an otter, a mole, a squirrel, and a mouse. They're headed for a goal several feet away. Which animal will win? Well, it depends. If the goal is underground, my money's on the mole. If it's in a tree? Hello, Mr. Squirrel. Underwater, it's the otter. And if the goal is hidden in tall grass, the mouse will walk away with it. Now, all these animals can swim, dig, climb, and find things in the grass. It's just that each of them does one of these things better than the others. Putting all four animals in a swimming race, say, would lead to the conclusion that one was better than the others, when the truth is simply that their innate skills are different.
If we're in an environment (such as school, a job, or a family tradition) that asks us to act against our natural style, we feel uncomfortable at best, tormented at worst. Even if we manage to conform, we don't get a high sense of self-efficacy because although we've managed the efficacy part of the equation, we've lost the self. When we fail, we feel like losers; when we succeed, we feel like impostors.
Thanks to Kathy's work (and centuries of psychological work on conation), I've stopped asking others to match my instinctive style. I no longer expect squirrels to swim and otters to climb trees. As a result, I'm better able to support myself, my children, and everyone else I know. Here's a quick primer on how you can do the same:
Accept that you have an inborn, instinctive style of action
Just learning that there are four distinct patterns of action was a huge aha for me. When Katie and I accepted that we simply had different ways of doing things, our relationship and her confidence began to improve immediately. To identify your own action-mode profile, you can take a formal online test (the Kolbe Index at kolbe.com; there is a charge), or just observe your own approach to getting something done. To give you an example, people with different profiles might respond to a challenge -- let's say, learning to crochet -- in the following ways:
- Quick Start: If you're a Quick Start who wants to crochet, you'll probably buy some yarn and a hook, get a few tips from an experienced crochetmeister, and jump right into trial and error.
- Fact Finder: You'll spend hours reading, watching, asking questions, and learning about crocheting before actually beginning to use the tools.
- Implementor: You pay less attention to words than to concrete objects, so you might draw a pattern of a crochet stitch or even create a large model using thick rope, before you go near a needle.
- Follow Thru: You'll likely schedule a lesson with a crochet teacher or buy a book that proceeds through a yarn curriculum, learning new stitches in order of difficulty.
So I finally stopped pressuring Katie to act like her Follow Thru teachers or her Quick Start mother. Instead I helped her find detailed information and gave her time to absorb it. She recently devoured a 1,000-page book on Web site design that I would not read if the alternative were death on the rack. It took her a month to finish the book. The next day, she made a Web site. Spooky.
Play to your strengths
Once you know your instinctive style, brainstorm ways to make it work for you, not against you. For starters, choose fields of endeavor where you feel comfortable and competent. If you love systematic structure, don't become a freelancer. If you are crazy about physical models, don't force yourself to crunch financial statistics for a living.
To really boost your sense of self-efficacy, think of ways you could modify your usual tasks to suit your personal style. For example, Kathy suggested that Katie might ask for permission to do detailed research reports in place of other school assignments. I nearly threw up at the very thought, but to my astonishment Katie agreed enthusiastically.
Of course, you'll inevitably interact with people whose instinctive patterns are different from yours. Otter, Mole, Squirrel, and Mouse may all show up in the same family, workplace, or book club. Occasionally, it's fine to conform, using styles of action that don't come naturally -- but do it consciously and for a limited time, or your sense of self-efficacy will suffer. And finally...
Team up with unlike others
As long as Otter, Mole, Squirrel, and Mouse are forced to race in the same terrain, at least three of them will be out of their element, looking and feeling like failures. But think what they could do if they pooled their skills. They could access resources from the water, earth, trees, and fields, combining them in ways none of the animals could achieve alone. They could rule the world! (Or at least the backyard.)
This is the very best way to leverage an understanding of conative style -- to create useful, complementary strategies instead of disheartening, competitive ones. Many of us have spent a lifetime trying to be what we're not, feeling lousy about ourselves when we fail and sometimes even when we succeed. We hide our differences when, by accepting and celebrating them, we could collaborate to make every effort more exciting, productive, enjoyable, and powerful. Personally, I think we should start right now. I mean, hey, how hard can it be?
Saturday, May 4, 2013
why my freezer is full of mail
13. If you have already sealed an envelope and realized you forgot to
put something in it, place the envelope in the freezer for a couple
hours. It will pop right open so you don't have to get another envelope.
http://diyhshp.blogspot.com/2012/07/tips-tips-and-more-tips.html
http://diyhshp.blogspot.com/2012/07/tips-tips-and-more-tips.html
Monday, January 7, 2013
story of the pencil
from
http://www.suziscribbles.com/search/label/informal%20styles
The Story Of The Pencil
Thursday, 5 January 2012
I came across an inspirational short story taken from Paulo Coelho’s book on short stories and reflections ‘Like the Flowing River’
I love working with pencil;
even without words, or perhaps, especially without words...
The Story of The Pencil....
A boy was watching his grandmother write a letter. At one point, he asked:
“Are you writing a story about what we’ve done? Is it a story about me?”
His grandmother stopped writing her letter and said to her grandson:
“I am writing about you, actually, but more important than the
words is the pencil I’m using. I hope you will be like this pencil when
you grow up.”
Intrigued, the boy looked at the pencil. It didn’t seem very special.
“But it’s just like any other pencil I’ve ever seen!”
no... there's nothing 'normal' about the pencil as
textures & patterns emerge... flowing from it's tip...
“That depends on how you look at things. It has five qualities which, if
you manage to hang on to them, will make you a person who is always at
peace with the world.
"First quality: you are capable of great things, but you must never
forget that there is a hand guiding your steps. We call that hand God,
and He always guides us according to His will.
“Second quality: now and then, I have to stop writing and use a
sharpener. That makes the pencil suffer a little, but afterwards, he’s
much sharper. So you, too, must learn to bear certain pains and sorrows,
because they will make you a better person.
a different challenge on black paper,
but see what depths can be reached...
“Third quality: the pencil always allows us to use an eraser to rub out
any mistakes. This means that correcting something we did is not
necessarily a bad thing; it helps to keep us on the road to justice.
“Fourth quality: what really matters in a pencil is not its wooden
exterior, but the graphite inside. So always pay attention to what is
happening inside you.
"Finally, the pencil’s fifth quality: It always leaves a mark. In just
the same way, you should know that everything you do in life will leave a
mark, so try to be conscious of that in your every action.”
and what results can be achieved...
if you keep sharp
& pay attention to the spaces as well as what is already there
& allow the marks you make to unfold...
Friday, October 26, 2012
Thursday, October 11, 2012
postal history
A carrier poses on skis, with an 80–pound pack of mail on his back, while on the mail route from Rocky Bar, Idaho, to Atlanta, Idaho. This 16–mile route was one of the most dangerous in the country. Between 1892 and 1913, seven carriers lost their lives in snow slides.
Sunday, October 7, 2012
theory of design etc (50 books)
http://publicdomainreview.org/2012/04/04/a-theory-of-pure-design-harmony-balance-rhythm-1907/
a very thorough discussion of design, harmony, balance and rhythm - a book published in 1907
and 50 other scanned books on a variety of topics
a very thorough discussion of design, harmony, balance and rhythm - a book published in 1907
and 50 other scanned books on a variety of topics
Labels:
books
Monday, July 30, 2012
when my blog or google is stuck on french
http://support.google.com/websearch/?hl=en&hlrm=en#topic=1224172&rd=1
http://support.google.com/websearch/?hl=en&hlrm=en#topic=1224172&rd=1
my google was stuck on french for a really long time
and i could not read the choices to change it back to english
finally i found this link
and i have to store it here...in case i ever get stuck in french again
this link doesn't work
try going to the little gear in the upper right corner
and try the third item in the column
http://support.google.com/websearch/?hl=en&hlrm=en#topic=1224172&rd=1
my google was stuck on french for a really long time
and i could not read the choices to change it back to english
finally i found this link
and i have to store it here...in case i ever get stuck in french again
this link doesn't work
try going to the little gear in the upper right corner
and try the third item in the column
Labels:
french
Sunday, July 15, 2012
famous mail carriers & postal workers
i don't know how long they will leave the information up, so i reprinted it here.
Famous Mail Carriers & Postal Workers
We often see public figures appearing on television shows talking about what they did before they became an actor, singer, politician, etc. We thought it would be fun to explore who may have once been responsible for delivering the mail. You may find many of the names quite surprising…Stellar Mail Carriers…
Charles Bukowski, author and poet – who penned of the 1971 novel “Post Office”
Steve Carell, actor in films such as “Little Miss Sunshine,” “Evan Almighty,” and “The Forty Year Old Virgin”
Walt Disney was a substitute mail carrier in Chicago, IL
Ace Frehely, the original guitarist for the rock n’ roll band KISS
Rock Hudson worked as a letter carrier in Winnetka, IL
John Prine, Grammy winning folk singer
The Presidential Treatment…
Abraham Lincoln was the postmaster in New Salem, IL
William McKinley was an assistant postmaster in Poland, OH
Harry S. Truman was the postmaster in Grandview, MO
More Power Postmasters…
William Faulkner, famed novelist who served as postmaster in University, MS
Benjamin Franklin, our famed Founding Father was also our first Postmaster General.
Will Hays, President of the Motion Picture Producers & Distributors of America served as Postmaster General
Conrad Hilton, the businessman and hotel magnate was postmaster in San Antonio, NM
Harry Hooper, this baseball Hall-of-Famer played the position of postmaster in Capitola, CA after his ball playing career ended
Bill Nye, the distinguished journalist and humorist was the postmaster of Laramie, WY when he founded the newspaper the Laramie Boomerang in 1881
Adlai E. Stevenson, who was the Assistant Postmaster General during President Grover Cleveland’s first
administration and Vice President of the US during Cleveland’s second administration (1893-1897)
Celebrity Clerks & Others…
Bing Crosby, before “White Christmas,” he likely handled many holiday cards as a clerk in Spokane, WA
Samuel L. Gravely, the first African-American admiral was a railway mail clerk after returning from his first stint as an ensign with the Navy; he later returned to that branch of the armed forces for 31-year career as a highly decorated officer
Sherman Hemsley, prior to “movin’ on up,” the actor worked as a clerk in Philadelphia, PA and New York, NY
Charles Lindbergh, the famed aviator winged it as contract airmail pilot
Knute Rockne, was a clerk in Chicago, IL before his legendary football coaching career
Noah Webster, the noted lexicographer was a special agent for the USPS
Foreign Service…
Olivier Besancenot, a candidate in the 2002 and 2007 French presidential elections has worked as a postal carrier since 1997 in Neuilly-sur-Seine, a suburb of Paris (taking a break in 1999 and 2002 to serve as a parliamentary attaché)
Alan Johnson, the former UK Shadow Chancellor of the Exchequer worked at the post office in his youth
Bon Scott, the late lead singer of rock n’ roll’s AC/DC was once a “postie” in Australia
Allan Smethurst, the English singer who was known as “The Singing Postman,” who started out humming tunes on his daily postal rounds for 12 years
Famous though Fictional…
Cliff Clavin, mailman and bar patron (played by John Ratzenberger) on the TV sitcom, “Cheers”
Newman, mailman and Jerry’s nemesis (played by Wayne Knight) on the TV sitcom, “Seinfeld”
Pat Clifton, the main character of the stop-motion animated children’s TV series, Postman Pat
Mister McFeely, the postman on Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, played by David Newell
Reba the Mail Lady, the children’s TV series Pee-Wee’s Playhouse played by S. Epatha Merkerson (perhaps best known for her work on TV’s Law and Order)
Next time you buy stamps at your local Post Office or see your mail carrier delivering letters and parcels along your route, you just may be having a brush with greatness. You never know!
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Thursday, June 14, 2012
view from the eiffle tower - view of the universe
http://www.gillesvidal.com/blogpano/paris.htm
wait for it to load
and you can scan 360-degrees
also
you can look at a very nice representation of our universe
http://langa.posterous.com/its-all-about-perspective
wait for it to load
and you can scan 360-degrees
also
you can look at a very nice representation of our universe
http://langa.posterous.com/its-all-about-perspective
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